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30 Days Challenge 22, Life

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

We live in a society of advice columns, experts and make-over shows. Without even knowing it, you can begin to believe someone knows better than you how to live your life. Someone might know a particular something better – like how to bake a three-layer molten coconut chocolate cake or how to build a website – but nobody else on the planet knows how to live your life better than you. (Although one or two people may think they do.) For today, trying asking yourself often, especially before you make a choice, “What do I know about this?”

Oh there have been so many people who wanted to tell me how to live my life. Maybe there are still one or two. People just who think what I should do. They just do not know how it is to live with a partner with autism and it's soooo easy for them to say!
Do I know how to live my life? I may…

Music on Sunday, Will Smith samples

Lately I'm listening to Sublime FM on Dutch radio and song come by on the radio that I recognise from Will Smith songs. Better said; he has samples of them in his songs. I like Will Smith a lot; he's funny, can act and sing and dance so I thought why not do my Sunday music blog about him and his music plus the original songs where the samples come from. The man uses not 1 but 3 (!!!) samples in one song some of the times! Plus those songs are sampled or covered by others as well. But let's just focus on his a few of his songs for now.

Here it goes:

Men in Black;


Gettin' Jiggy with it; (6)









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30 Days Challenge, 21 ; Speak less

What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know I.- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Challenge;

I once received a fortune cookie that read: “Speak less of your plans, you’ll get more done.” What’s one project that you’ve been sitting on and thinking about but haven’t made progress on? What’s stopping you? What would happen if you actually went for it and did it?

For a while now I am sort of working on writing a novel. I have always been writing for as long as I can remember, but only short stories and poems never anything long. Lately I've been kind of derived from that by writing fanfiction. Yes, really. Not that it is bad or anything. I rather enjoy doing that and that is what really matters I think in writing. Enjoying w…

30 Days Challenge 20, Facing

Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough to-day to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Trusting intuition and making decisions based on it is the most important activity of the creative artist and entrepreneur. If you are facing (and fearing) a difficult life decision, ask yourself these three questions:

1) “What are the costs of inaction?” I find it can be helpful to fight fear with fear. Fears of acting are easily and immediately articulated by our “lizard brains” (thanks Seth) e.g. what if I fail? what if I look stupid? If you systematically and clearly list the main costs of inaction, they will generally overshadow your immediate fears.

2) “What kind of person do I want to be?” I’ve found this question to be extremely useful. I admire people who act bravely and decisively. I know the only way to join their ra…

30 Days Challenge, 19 Dreams

Abide in the simple and noble regions of thy life, obey thy heart. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Write down your top three dreams. 
Now write down what’s holding you back from them.

Even though I find these challenges very repetitive I think they made them so on purpose, for us to learn, or to find out more about ourselves so instead of skipping them like Daan does I will suck it up and do them.. (reluctantly I might add) 

1. Becoming a writer.
2. Living in Scotland.
3. Living more healthy and less stressful.

With all of these dreams the same things apply; nothing is holding me back. First of all I do consider myself already a writer only not a published one, second to be able to go live in Scotland I do have to have considerable means which I do not have right now, or have to work more jobs than I can handle-is it worth that? To get ones dream at ALL cost? I don't think so, I am very happy where I'm living right now too thank you very much. If I will get the chance one day I will grab it…

30 Days Challenge 18, Invent the Future

A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his.– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's challenge; 

My favorite quote of all time is Alan Kay: ‘In order to predict the future, you have to invent it.’ I am all about inventing the future. Decide what you want the future to be and make it happen. Because you can. Write about your future now.

Even though I'm a ferm believer of 'Trust the Universe' and 'live in the here and now' I'll go along with this challenge...

Let's send a message to the same Universe shall we.

I'm sitting in my conservatory writing on my next book. My fourth book actually. The first three made it possible for me to buy this wonderful property at a loch in Scotland of which I have dreamt of my whole life. It has everything I've ever wanted; Periodic features, an…

30 Days Challenge 17, Strange & New

Apparently Daan has done two challenges today; so I'm following her; 
When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the foot-prints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name;—— the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you remember a moment in your life when you had life in yourself and it was wholly strange and new? Can you remember the moment when you stopped walking a path of someone else, and started cutting your own?
Write about that moment. And if you haven’t experienced it yet, let the miracle play out in your mind’s eye and write about that moment in your future.

I can remember several moments in my life when I realised this. It was later on in my life when I got the courage to tell my then husband I wanted a divorce. I had become so depended on him. When he moved out I had to do everything myself. First my parents …

30 Days Challenge 16, One Thing

Do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Take a moment, step back from your concerns, and focus on one thing: You have one life to achieve everything you’ve ever wanted. Sounds simple, but when you really focus on it, let it seep into your consciousness, you realize you only have about 100 years to get every single thing you’ve ever wanted to do. No second chances. This is your only shot. Suddenly, this means you should have started yesterday. No more waiting for permission or resources to start. Today is the day you make the rest of your life happen. Write down one thing you’ve always wanted to do and how you will achieve that goal. Don’t be afraid to be very specific in how you’ll achieve it: once you start achieving, your goals will get bigger and your capability to meet them will grow.

I don't have just one goal, do have have goals at all? I'm a rather lazy person. Any goals I've had are gone with…

30 Days Challenge 14, Alternate Paths

When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the foot-prints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name; the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

The world buzzes about goals and visions. Focus. Create a vivid picture of exactly where you want to go. Dream big, then don’t let anything or anyone stop you. The problem, as Daniel Gilbert wrote in Stumbling Upon Happiness, is that we’re horrible at forecasting how we’ll really feel 10 or 20 years from now – once we’ve gotten what we dreamed of. Often, we get there only to say, “That’s not what I thought it would be,” and ask, “What now?” Ambition is good. Blind ambition is not. It blocks out not only distraction, but the many opportunities that might take you off course but that may also lead you in a new direction. Consistent daily action is only a virtue when bundled with a…

30 Days Challenge 14, Surprise yourself

I will not hide my tastes or aversions. I will so trust that what is deep is holy, if we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last.– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Think of a time when you didn’t think you were capable of doing something, but then surprised yourself.
How will you surprise yourself this week?

I don't know if I surprise myself or if it's more that I'm just doing it, or continue to go on because, hey, who else is? In my opinion women are stronger than they themselves give them credit for or are being credited for. Not only by men or other women but by society as well. We are being payed less for the same jobs, being scrutinised every moment of every day. We are being criticised sometimes even by other women which is worse I think, women should stick together don't they? But that's another subject entirely. ;)

In my life I've been very insecure and I think I did things that surprised other people. In my mind I never surprised myself, I just did th…

Music on Sunday, Eurovision 2015

Yesterday we all watched Eurovision and tweeted en masse about it! At least I did with a bunch of online friends. It was lovely! My favourites were Italy and Sweden and I'm happy Sweden won. He had a gorgeous stage performance.

What I don't like is the voting and the political voting mostly. It's not about your neighbours it's about the song I think! I do hope someday that will change! Same with people wanting to boycot Russia for it's politics while it's a song contest. The girl singing can't help that!

Anyway; here are some of my personal favourites;

and yes even Australia participated this year because of the 60 year celebration

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30 Days challenge, 13, Insecurities and dreams

These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members.– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:
Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?
Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?
Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?
Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.

Yes I am an insecure person but I am also a ferm believer of 'if it's meant to happen it will happen' and 'Trust the Universe' kind of stuff.
I would love to be a writer, but wait, I AM a writer already! I write every single day from age 12 on. I write poems,…

Quotes and Pics 179, poem quotes

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30 Days Challenge 12, Never Imitate

Imitation is Suicide. Insist on yourself; never imitate. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Write down in which areas of your life you have to overcome these suicidal tendencies of imitation, and how you can transform them into a newborn you – one that doesn’t hide its uniqueness, but thrives on it. There is a “divine idea which each of us represents” – which is yours?

I don't think I imitate others. Maybe I have in the past I don't know. I do think however that I am myself at all times. What you see is what you get and always be yourself is myphilosophy. 
I don't listen to the same music as others do, I don't write in the 
same manner as others do, I even don't like to go visit the same 
countries as others do.

I was thinking it the other day; in my family I am pretty unique as well.
Growing up, I was brought up in a Catholic family, we went to church
every Sunday, my parents were pretty conservative and strict and 
I am so not! 
I turned out so very different than they were/are. I…

30 Days Challenge 11, message

To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, that is genius.– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Challenge;
What is burning deep inside of you?  If you could spread your personal message RIGHT NOW to 1 million people, what would you say? - Always be yourself not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be. - When one door closes, another opens, don't stare to long at the closed door.  - Everything happens for a reason. You meet the people you are supposed to meet. Whether they make you happy or sad, you meet them to learn, or maybe they meet you to learn. Either way, you will be wiser meeting them.  - Trust yourself and your inner-self more. Listen to your inner voice, it tells you things for a reason.  - Laugh more.  - Enoy the little things in life.  - Let Go! It will be okay.  - Trust the Universe!
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30 Days challenge 10, Afraid to do

The other terror that scares us from self-trust is our consistency; a reverence for our past act or word, because the eyes of others have no other data for computing our orbit than our past acts, and we are loath to disappoint them. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Challenge;

Emerson says: “Always do what you are afraid to do.” What is ‘too scary’ to write about? Try doing it now.

I'm afraid to lose control I guess. I'm afraid to let go to trust the Universe, to trust that what must happen will happen. I want to make it happen for others I mean. I want to control things. I can't I know that, but I get stressed out about things I want to control but can't. There I said it.

My Youngest son wanted to be a cook. He is in his last year and had to study further of course he's just 18. A few months back he said he didn't want to anymore. He wanted something else. What he did not know yet so he got all kinds of tests at school. Last week we got the results and they …

30 Days challenge, 9; 5 years

There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What would you say to the person you were five years ago? 
What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years?

To me 5 years ago:

Dear me,

You're still healing. It took longer than they all say it would or even then you thought it would. You're still grieving a bit, yes it's like grieving. Saying goodbye from a life/a dream. You feel like you failed but you really didn't. You did rather well actually under those circumstances! You carried your own! You kept your head above water. Sure you did some things you'd rather did not do but nothing too bad or damaging. Only neglecting yourself a bit. The kids always came first. You did good! Time to think about yourself a bit more! Be kinder to yourself!

Love, me.

To me 5 years from now:

Dear me,

I know you don't like change much. Even the smallest change can put you off. So I hope nothi…

30 Days Challenge, 8; Be Bold

Our arts, our occupations, our marriages, our religion, we have not chosen, but society has chosen for us. We are parlour soldiers. We shun the rugged battle of fate, where strength is born. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Challenge; 

“Next to Resistance, rational thought is the artist or entrepreneurs worst enemy. Bad things happen when we employ rational thought, because rational thought comes from the ego. Instead, we want to work from the Self, that is, from instinct and intuition, from the unconscious.

A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. Its only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.” – Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

The idea of “being realistic” holds all of us back. From starting a business or quitting a job to dating someone who may not be our type or moving to a new place – getting “real” often means putting your dreams on hold.
Today, let’s take a step away from ration…

30 Days Challenge, 7; Come Alive

Life wastes itself while we are preparing tolive.– Ralph Waldo Emerson Today's Challenge;

If you had one week left to live, would you still be doing what you’re doing now? In what areas of your life are you preparing to live? Take them off your To Do list and add them to a To Stop list. Resolve to only do what makes you come alive.
Bonus: How can your goals improve the present and not keep you in a perpetual “always something better” spiral?

If I had only one week left to live, I wouldn't change a single thing. I am happy with my life the way it is. The only thing I would probably want to do is to see my beloved Scotland one more time, to breath it in, to say goodbye if I could, afterwards I would go back to my loved ones again. 

The thing I need to stop doing is; stop stressing and trust the Universe more. I know that if I let things go that they will turn out okay. I do have to remind myself to that everytime instead of trusting it. I also have to listen more to my innerself …

Music on Sunday, B.B. King

On May 14th The King of Blues past away. The great B.B. King was alive a legend and he died at the age of 89. I know I have made a blog about him sometime ago but you can't hear this beautiful music enough.

RIP B.B. King The Thrill may be gone but the legend lives on.

this is probably my favourite

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30 Days Challenge 6; Travel

If we live truly, we shall see truly.  - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Challenge:

Not everyonefeels the needto travel aroundtheworld, but everyone can think of aplacethey want to visitagainbeforethey die.What istheplace for youandwhatdo you do toachieve this?

This is probably the easiest challenge they can give me.
Maybe I do want to travel more but I do not have the means to do so, I am content with that. I accept that. I do have that Bucket list like so many other people but not at all cost. My own personal happiness is more important. To be happy in my own skin in my own surroundings is more important than to save up all the money I can spare to go on holiday every year like so many other people I know do! (and not only once a year either) I don't even envy them, if that's their way of being happy, let them. I am happy right where I am.(sounds kinda boring right? Maybe I've become just that)

But if there is one place I want to visit again before I die? That must be the Hig…

Quotes and Pics 178, quotes from books

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30 Days Challenge, day 5; Post it

That what any man can do well, he learnt from no other than the almighty {cosmos}. where is the master that thought Shakespeare? who had taught Franklin, or Newton, or Bacon? You will never write like Shakespeare by studying Shakespeare. do what you are supposed to do, and do not ask or hope for too much... ~R.W. Emerson

Determine what is your biggest challenge at this moment, form it into a question, write this on a piece of paper and hang it where you can see it.  after 48 hours you start writing down the answers that come on your path, and evaluate them. Post your question on your blog {optional}

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Also look at Daan's Challenge

30 Days Challenge; Strong belief

“It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Challenge of today:

The world isdriven bypassionatespirits,powerful ideas,andfearlessactions.Whatis a strong beliefthatyou possesswhatis not sharedby friends andfamily?What inspiresyourfaith,andwhat have you doneto activelyrespond to it?

That's a tough one. A strong belief that I have is that Everything happens for a reason. You meet the right people at the right time, even the ones you can't get along with, if only to learn from them. It may not always be easy this belief. When loved ones get sick, or worse; die, that belief is being tested. But isn't that what it is for? Testing you? It is hard to be honest to let go of the idea of not controlling everything. Like now for instance; my youngest son is quiting his cooking educa…

30 Days Challenge; be present

Your genuine action will explain itself, and will explain your other genuine actions. Your conformity explains nothing. Act singly, and what you have already done singly will justify you now. Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough to-day to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. The force of character is cumulative.- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Challenge of today; 

If'the voyage ofthebestship is azigzaglineofhundreds of points', it ismore honestto be presenttodaythan to linger inyesterday.How wouldyoudescribetoday, only usingone sentence?

Every day is a new day and a fresh start to learn, grow, develop your strengths, heal yourself from past regrets or hurts, and move forward older and wiser or to take a chance to reinvent yourself, to fine-tune who you are and build on lessons you learned -keep an open mind and start each day anew!  © KH

30 Days Challenge; 15 minutes to live

We are afraid of truth, afraid of fortune, afraid of death, and afraid of each other. Our age yields no great and perfect persons. —Ralph Waldo Emerson

You just discovered you have fifteen minutes to live. 1. Set a timer for fifteen minutes.
2. Write the story that has to be written.
First: Would I react that way if I found that out? Would I not waste those 15 minutes being scared to death about what I just found out and why? 15 minutes isn't a lot, so something must have happened right? A plane crash or something. I remember when sis and I sat in the plane back from Edinburgh some weeks ago, two guys were going to the back together. They were looking scruffy, hooded, and I had a weird feeling about it and I didn't know why. I was thinking: Why would you go to the toilet together? There's only one so why? If they want to do something, I'm going to jump right on it! Sis was thinking the exact same thing she told me later.  So if I found out I had 15 minutes to live, i…

30 Day Challenge; I write therefore I am

“Books are the best of things, well used. What is the right use? What is the one end, which all means go to effect? They are for nothing but to inspire.” 
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wich book has inspired you the most and why? Why did you think one day; That's what I want to do; to write. Do you have a book of which you think: I wish I could do that too, inspire people, that man or woman has brought me so much joy reading. I would so much want to be able to do that as well; publish a book. How do you think you can accomplish that?

Daan and I did this challenge in 2011. We thought it was time to do it again and see if we would write the same things now, years later. Unfortunately the challenge site has been removed but thank god for our blogs, we can read there what the challenge was!

Right, what book has inspired me? Where to start; what book hasn't?
I read or have read so many books that I hardly can choose one over another! I love (still love) historian novels, adore books with m…

Music on Sunday, Mother's Day music

It's Mother's Day today and that means I get to do what I want to do! Basically anyway! ;) So today some of my favourite music.

Never can choose one from The Police or Sting, Love all!

Dido makes me happy every single time I'm listening to her!
this one still gives me goosebumbs everytime I hear it:

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Quotes and Pics 177, Mother's Day

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